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Effective Pickup Lines

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Type “pick-up lines for women” into Google and you’ll get a slew of cheesy results. Pick-up lines call to mind a sunglasses-wearing douche saying with a grin: “Hey, sweetheart, did you just fall out of heaven?” But the truth about pickup lines is this: they are extremely powerful when used effectively. If you can come up with something punchier and more creative than the lazy “Hey, can I buy you a drink?” you’re certain to leave a good impression.

At the same time, you shouldn’t be overthinking it! At its heart, a pickup line is just a way to spark an interesting conversation with a woman you’re attracted to! Here, we lay out some tips and pickup lines you can use in different situations when you want to make that cute stranger notice you. Remember, these are dependent on whatever context you might be in.

1. Use Your Environment

Ok, so you have zero knowledge of what the redhead in your gourmet cooking class likes. EXCEPT that she…clearly likes to cook! That’s a great place to start from. Make your way over to her station and ask her if she has an extra spatula. Compliment her on how great her chocolate tart turned out. Start a little flirtation over the soup of the day. Whatever you’re feeling, this is a fantastic route to find out if she’s single and get her number eventually.

Maybe you’re not at a cooking class. Maybe she’s standing awkwardly in the corner at your best friend’s housewarming party, or waiting in a long line at the DMV with you. Wherever you are, this is an opportunity for you to strike up a conversation about your surroundings.

Make an observation about how the man bun seems to be coming back, judging by all the man buns you see at the party. Comment on how badly your team is losing at sports league — anything about what’s going on around you.

Hey, so I’m looking for the dip for these nachos — seen a bowl of dip anywhere? John ALWAYS forgets to make enough dip for his parties and I don't like my nachos dry.

That creates an instant camaraderie between the two of you, and before you know it, you’ll be hunting for dip together.

Or:

Wow, this is a tense game, isn’t it? Where are you going to hide when those fanboys over there get into a raging fight? Bet you $5 it happens in the next five minutes.

2. Ask A Question

Compliments are great. Compliments are generally highly appreciated, but as far as pick-up lines go? Compliments aren’t the best pick-up lines, because they aren’t designed to get the other person talking.

Say she’s wearing a great dress. You could go over and compliment her on her great dress, and then she says “Thank you”. Now what? Now you’re both standing there awkwardly, because you’ve run into a conversational dead end. That’s not ideal, and she’s probably wondering when you’re going to walk away. Instead of delivering a forced compliment, consider opening with a friendly question.

Hey, it’s my first time at this trivia night, do you know what time the game starts? Do I have enough time to duck out and grab a beer?’ Keep the question simple. “So, how do you know John? I’m kind of mad he never introduced us.

That is a perfect way to get her talking. “Well, I met John at summer camp way back when…“ and now it’s a real, proper conversation between the two of you, versus a two-second interaction.

3. Project Good Energy

One of the most important thing about pickup lines is the attitude with which they’re delivered. You could have a knock-em-dead line but it means nothing without the corresponding good energy.

When you go up to a strange woman to talk to her, check your tone and make sure you’re radiating friendliness and positivity. Smile, be cheerful. Don’t appear sour or resentful: be upbeat. Women can read your attitude from a mile away, remember.

Don’t be defeatist, or pre-emptively kill your chances with a line like “A beautiful woman like yourself wouldn’t want to talk to a guy like me, but…” Why would you want to sabotage yourself like that? Ditch the negativity: Approach women with confidence and believe that you do have something to offer them.

Hi! Just wanted to throw it out there that your karaoke selection totally made my day. Thank you!

Or:

Hello — your dog is the cutest and it is such a great start to the work week to see a dog that cute.

Don’t be afraid to seem too goofy or enthusiastic!

4. Pay Her A Compliment

Everybody appreciates a mood boost in the middle of their day, and genuine compliments are a great way to make people feel special.

That being said, a generic ‘you look pretty’ to a stranger may not be as memorable as you hope for, and anything too specific might be read as creepy. Plus, how many times has she heard that before? It’s worth the extra second it takes to find something unusual to compliment her about.

If you say something that is both unusual and complimentary, she’s sure to remember it. “You have great style”, or “I really like your energy,” are both safe compliments that leave the receiver feeling good about themselves.

Again, this is context-dependent. If the two of you are at a club, you can compliment her on her dancing. If you’re in grad school together, tell her that you really liked her take on the assigned reading. There’s always something nice to be said about other people — you just have to find it. Pay attention. Even if it’s the smallest thing.

“Hey, this may be out of left-field, but I was noticing how good you are at walking over grates in those high heels — and I gotta tell you, it’s impressive. You could teach Rihanna a thing or two.”

5. But Compliments Aren’t Enough On Their Own

Respectful compliments are generally highly appreciated, but as far as pick-up lines go? Compliments aren’t enough on their own because they aren’t designed to get the other person talking.

Say she’s wearing a great dress. You could go over and compliment her on her great dress, and then she says “Thank you”.

Now what? Now you’re both standing there awkwardly, because you’ve run into a conversational dead end. That’s not ideal, and she’s probably wondering when you’re going to walk away. Consider following up your compliment with a friendly question:

Hey, it’s my first time at this trivia night, do you know what time the game starts? Do I have enough time to duck out and grab a beer?’

Or:

“God, it’s always such a long line at this falafel truck. You wouldn’t happen to know any trucks that sell equally amazing falafel but that have shorter lines, would you?…I was afraid not.”

Whatever it is, keep it simple:

“So, how do you know John? I’m kind of mad he never introduced us.”

That is a perfect way to get her talking. “Well, I met John at summer camp way back when…“ and now it’s a real, proper conversation between the two of you, versus a two-second interaction.

6. Don’t Try to Hide What You’re Doing. Own It

She knows exactly why you’re approaching her out of everybody in the room. You’re attracted to her! That’s fine. Don’t act as if you’re looking to just make friends with her, or get huffy when she says “I’m not interested.”

Own what you’re doing, in a chill way. If you’re really confident, you can even make a joke out of it:

Hey, so I was wondering, do you have a couple minutes for me to hit on you? If not, just say the word.

That’s a nice way to break the ice. It also signals to her that you’re a relaxed, humorous guy who won’t be mad about getting rejected — the Holy Grail, in other words. Even if she says No, you’re going to walk away with grace: a clear winner.

“Oh, you have a boyfriend? Well, he’s a lucky guy! You have a great day, miss.”

7. Don’t Do Too Much. Let Her Come to You

There’s one thing you may have noticed about the absolute best pickup lines: they’re the ones that are creative, that leave a woman intrigued, but that don’t also put too much pressure on her. After all, the goal of an opening line is a conversation, and women are much more likely to talk when they’re feeling relaxed! That means you shouldn’t be cornering her in the kitchen at the neighborhood BBQ and asking her with an intense gaze whether she’s single. That may play off sexy in romcoms, but it can be super creepy in real life.

Also, don’t use lines like:

“Hi. Wow, you’re so beautiful. I have to say, I feel like I just fell in love. How would you feel about two kids, a four-door sedan, and a nice place in the suburbs?”

This kind of approach can leave women feeling extremely uncomfortable. Leave these lines to Mr. Fifty Shades of Grey to deliver: women prefer chill attitudes in men they don’t know.

Instead, try something like:

Hey, I just noticed two things about you. One, you’re beautiful. Two, you’re not holding a drink. I make a great spicy lemonade, and I’ll be over there by the grill checking my phone. Y'know, in case you get thirsty.

Or:

Hi, I noticed that you’re with your friends, and I don’t want to take up too much of your time, but I would love to buy you an overpriced cocktail at the bar. I’m seated by the kitchen – in case you feel like taking me up on my offer. I’ll be here all night.

This type of pickup line is ideal because you’re not being pushy. It tells her you’re confident, and that you’re secure enough to leave her alone afterward. Now the ball’s in her court, and you’ve left her tantalized and ready to make the move. When it comes to sexy approaches, remember the golden rule: less is more. Give her space, and you’ll be surprised to find how quickly she comes to you.


Using Pickup Lines Online

Still a little nervous about approaching women in real life with one of these pickup lines? Why not try them on a dating site? Most guys on dating sites are opening with the incredibly uninspired ‘Hi’ – so using a well-crafted pickup line on there will seriously improve your chances.


Zoosk

Zoosk is the No. 1 grossing online dating app in the App Store, and it’s easy to see why! This site streamlines your matches, and it’s got it down to a science. The Behavioral Matchmaking system takes note of the profiles you click on the most or like, and then recommends similar profiles to you. The more time you spend on Zoosk, the higher the quality of your matches. In addition, it’s super easy to sign up through your Facebook profile.

Check out Zoosk


Match.com

As far as user satisfaction goes, Match.com is the one to beat: it’s been around from the very beginning and it’s getting better all the time! The site sends you seven matches daily, among other great features that improve your online dating experience. This might account for its phenomenal success rate. It also has a generous user guarantee: if you don’t find someone special within the first six months of dating on Match, the site will give you another six months free.

Check out Match.com


EliteSingles

EliteSingles is for the discriminating man. Are you tired of basic profiles that don’t reveal enough about their creator’s personality? Then this site may be for you. The average user here tends to skew a little older than on Tinder, and are generally highly educated. It has several great features, like the ‘Have You Met’ feature: it shows you users that you might like, who fall just outside your filters. Because nobody is sure exactly what they want, right?

Check out EliteSingles


FriendFinder-X

The bonus of using a site like FriendFinder-X, which bills itself as a place to find hookups, is that it’s straightforward! It has a large user base, and offers everything from live model video chats and erotic photos of users, to chatrooms where you can engage with a larger virtual community. The site makes it easy to find people near you for casual sex, but also encourages cyber-experimentation: it has a host of features that allows you to sort users based on their specific interest or kink.

Check out FriendFinder-X

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